You want me to do what?
Surrender? Give up? Stop trying ..... are you mad?
The answer to these questions and many like it is yes. Stop running away, ignoring, resisting, controlling, judging, evaluating, fixing, sorting, protecting. It doesn't change what is!
The Universal Law of Surrender states the following:
Surrender is accepting this moment, this body, and this life with open arms. Surrender involves getting out of our own way and living in accord with a higher will, expressed as the wisdom of the heart. Far more than passive acceptance, surrender uses every challenge as a means of spiritual growth and expanded awareness. (source - Dan Millman)
The best explanation I have found comes from www.guidespeak.com
To surrender does not mean putting your hands in the air and flying a white flag, it is not defeat, giving up or failing. To surrender is to be wise. It is wise to accept the flow of life’s energy rather than resist it. To surrender is to accept “What is now” unconditionally.
By making a conscious choice at this moment, and in every present moment of now, to fully accept that the present moment is as it should be, then by surrendering to this knowledge you are more powerful than you could possibly believe.
This allows you to be in a state of grace, easy flow and enlightenment. Whether things are perceived “good” or “bad” is not material in this state of grace.
By surrendering to “what is now”, in this state of graceful surrender, you can see clearly what action needs to take place and by doing one thing at a time, step by step, inch by inch, moment by moment, as illustrated in the Law of Process, you accomplish what needs to be done, in your surrendered state.
The energy released in a surrendered state is a powerful, healing energy. This energy propells your healing, growth and evolvement.
To surrender means to embrace the concept that all is exactly the way it is supposed to be. This is not a cop-out, this takes courage, it takes faith and it takes trust. Surrender is not passive, it is not giving up and it is definitely not for sissies!
I have faced this challenge full on and the hardest part of my healing journey has been embracing the possibility that I am not in control and just because I don't like something it doesn't change it and/or make it go away. I mean the arrogance of thinking I was in control astounds me now. Only once I took a long hard look at my life, the full mess of my life with all its light and shadows did I start to heal. Only once I owned the part that I played in my life did I learn to surrender to the wisdom of being guided to make different choices.
Choice is such an important concept in life. A sense of empowerment is felt when we step into the awareness that we have choice and more importantly that we are indeed accountable for the choices we make but choice is not enough. The question is what drives the choices and that is where the Law of Surrender get tricky. Do you give into your ego, does it drive your choices or do you Surrender to your Soul and trust it to guide your choices?
Do you even know?
To find out see the table below .....
This table is not meant to be an exhaustive list, it is not a tool to judge yourself against. It is just a prompt to help you find what drives you most. This life is not about perfection, so if you find yourself making choices from the red column, well done .... now you know you are human. Each moment provides an opportunity for a new choice. So if your choice is what do with your time when you have an hour free or how to resolve a conflict or how to deal with pain or grief, allow yourself to learn how to make choices from a new place.
Learning to Surrender to our Soul is a journey of discovery, healing, growth and expansion in conscious-ness. This requires courage and a willingness to explore the deepest recesses of our soul. There are so many opportunities given to us in this lifetime and previous lifetimes to aid us in our journey towards embracing our wholeness and growing, even though these are not always easy. Each person is unique and each person that I am honoured to work with has a different path to take to get to their place of Surrender, yet what is clear is the answer most often resides in healing from their deepest hurt.
Wishing you lots of love and light in your journey.