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Surrender? Give up? Stop trying ..... are you mad?

The answer to these questions and many like it is yes. Stop running away, ignoring, resisting, controlling, judging, evaluating, fixing, sorting, protecting. It doesn't change what is!

The Universal Law of Surrender states the following:

Surrender is accepting this moment, this body, and this life with open arms. Surrender involves getting out of our own way and living in accord with a higher will, expressed as the wisdom of the heart. Far more than passive acceptance, surrender uses every challenge as a means of spiritual growth and expanded awareness. (source - Dan Millman)

The best explanation I have found comes from www.guidespeak.com

To surrender does not mean putting your hands in the air and flying a white flag, it is not defeat, giving up or failing. To surrender is to be wise. It is wise to accept the flow of life’s energy rather than resist it. To surrender is to accept “What is now” unconditionally.

FB_IMG_1431488964233By making a conscious choice at this moment, and in every present moment of now, to fully accept that the present moment is as it should be, then by surrendering to this knowledge you are more powerful than you could possibly believe.

This allows you to be in a state of grace, easy flow and enlightenment. Whether things are perceived “good” or “bad” is not material in this state of grace.

By surrendering to “what is now”, in this state of graceful surrender, you can see clearly what action needs to take place and by doing one thing at a time, step by step, inch by inch, moment by moment, as illustrated in the Law of Process, you accomplish what needs to be done, in your surrendered state.

The energy released in a surrendered state is a powerful, healing energy. This energy propells your healing, growth and evolvement.

To surrender means to embrace the concept that all is exactly the way it is supposed to be. This is not a cop-out, this takes courage, it takes faith and it takes trust. Surrender is not passive, it is not giving up and it is definitely not for sissies!

I have faced this challenge full on and the hardest part of my healing journey has been embracing the possibility that I am not in control and just because I don't like something it doesn't change it and/or make it go away. I mean the arrogance of thinking I was in control astounds me now. Only once I took a long hard look at my life, the full mess of my life with all its light and shadows did I start to heal. Only once I owned the part that I played in my life did I learn to surrender to the wisdom of being guided to make different choices.

Choice is such an important concept in life. A sense of empowerment is felt when we step into the awareness that we have choice and more importantly that we are indeed accountable for the choices we make but choice is not enough. The question is what drives the choices and that is where the Law of Surrender get tricky. Do you give into your ego, does it drive your choices or do you Surrender to your Soul and trust it to guide your choices?

Do you even know?

To find out see the table below .....


This table is not meant to be an exhaustive list, it is not a tool to judge yourself against. It is just a prompt to help you find what drives you most. This life is not about perfection, so if you find yourself making choices from the red column, well done .... now you know you are human. Each moment provides an opportunity for a new choice. So if your choice is what do with your time when you have an hour free or how to resolve a conflict or how to deal with pain or grief, allow yourself to learn how to make choices from a new place.

ba0d8d5e82abb1f41f138c78ba5b616dLearning to Surrender to our Soul is a journey of discovery, healing, growth and expansion in conscious-ness. This requires courage and a willingness to explore the deepest recesses of our soul. There are so many opportunities given to us in this lifetime and previous lifetimes to aid us in our journey towards embracing our wholeness and growing, even though these are not always easy. Each person is unique and each person that I am honoured to work with has a different path to take to get to their place of Surrender, yet what is clear is the answer most often resides in healing from their deepest hurt.

Wishing you lots of love and light in your journey.


OcfagZKDvyIt is undeniable that we have these moments in our life. The moments that unmistakably impact our world. In these moments we know that everything is about to change .... or has changed. Our life can be split into the time before and the time after that defining moment.

One such moment for me, came from following a complete whim and getting on a plane to go to Durban for a weekend .... alone. This intuitive nudge got me to face my deepest fears and meet an angel that magically transformed my life. I remember the moment like yesterday. Strolling past my dinner table, he asked "why you look so sad?". To my horror I was found out! Sitting alone in a hotel dining room, the first time since my divorce, I hoped I looked sophisticated, grown up, elegant .... yet he saw my sadness. A night of flirting, smiling and awakening happened after that moment. I will never forget him, I can't remember his name and I have never seen him since but he is undeniably a major part of my life and it is clear to me that the woman I was that arrived in Durban was not the one that left.

I will never forget the moment I faced death and grew up, standing in a dirty little morgue seeing my brother in laws lifeless body. Or the moment I said the words I feared the most, "I want a divorce..", seeing the pain it caused and knowing that nothing for my family would be the same after that point yet feeling a deep knowing and relief that I had finally spoken my truth. The journey of pain, loss, healing and self-discovery following these moments is life altering.

ffe2912f9e5f5742178d9ca185582261These moments may be the slow magical slide into awareness, or the glance into the eyes of a stranger, a choice to say yes, a choice to say no. They may also be the moments when the walls come crashing down, when your heart stops faced with the pain of loss or the consequences of a bad choice. One phone call, one decision and time stands still. We know - it will never be the same again.

These defining moments whether bathed in the beauty and seduction of joy and love or housed in the mockery of pain, hurt, deceit and shame have the same impact.

They wake us up. They bring us to our truth.

Like Sleeping Beauty being woken up by her own true loves kiss, her Soul, these moments bring us into the presence of ourself.

Our soul awakens, and it doesn't mind how, it just is grateful for the awakening.

Our biggest challenge is to stay awake.


It is a warm November afternoon, the day is starting to descend into the early evening. We are walking, in silence alone with our own thoughts 1002925_10201734635461428_866050478_ndown the rocky path. I wonder how good it is to be doing this talk in my flip flops.

As we get closer, the debate gets louder. My heart, my soul knows I am moving forward towards where I am supposed to be but my head is frustrated by how irrational that is. "Why are you here?" "What do you think is really going to happen - huh?"

This noisy debate is not unusual for me, the tug between the logical, the rational, the responsible intellectual part of me and the mystical, mysterious, intuitive part of me. I honestly wish they could learn to get along better. It would make my life so much easier.

We have arrived!

I snap out of my inner conflict to hear the instructions. I must do this properly! Aah the arrogance of thinking that I am in control of this! I look past the people and focus on the Labyrinth. A long winding circular path on the ground under the cover of the wisdom of the trees that seem to vibrate with energy. The rocks and stream surround the space making it seem safe and sacred.

My heart sighs, it knows, it is prepared.

My head is looking for the best escape route.

I take off my shoes and feel the ground under my feet. I close my eyes and say a silent prayer asking the Labyrinth to take the lead and show me what I need to know.

My head laughs at me, it's last ditch attempt to cause doubt and insecurity.

I start along the path, walking up and down, allowing the path to take the lead. One step at a time, heel, toe, heel, toe, I start to feel the rhythm.

With a sudden rush of energy I become aware of one of the other girls exploring the Labyrinth. As she starts to run, I am engulfed in the pain of a young girl hurt more than is fair or right. My heart breaks for her. All my focus shifts to sending her as much love as I can. I start to suspend my own journey so I can support hers - such a familiar pattern for me. A great way to avoid my own vulnerability. My empathy for her becomes so overwhelming.

My head is smirking at me.

I need to choose, heel, toe, heel, toe, me or her, me or her, which do I choose?

Today I choose to choose me. I know she is safe. I know she is supported. Today I choose to choose me. My head (ego) sighs, it is a small defeat. My heart (soul) smiles.

I come back. Heel, toe, heel, toe. Once again allowing the path to lead me.

I start to think ........ again ........ I wonder what the facilitators Angela and Garrick are seeing watching me do this. I wonder if I am doing it right. Stupid head, always needing validation this it is ok. The argument starts again!

Suddenly aloud buzzing noise fills my ears. It gets louder and louder. I block me are and look up. I am not sure if it is bugs making the noise but I cannot see anything. It gets louder. It sounds like chanting.Like an ancient tribe chanting around a fire. It is so loud, I can't think. What is it? Where is it coming from? How do I make it stop? Is it bugs? Is it singing?

I keep glaring up into the trees hoping for some logical answer. My breath is catching. I wish I could make it stop. The confusion, the frustration, the fear and the hope of what this is is all running through my veins. My arms keep flicking around my ears, scratching my head, pulling my hair. It is so loud! I take a breath, a deep deep breath, I feel the tears, I am so close to the middle of this magical crazy place.

I enter the middle. A I step in I hear the words SURRENDER ...... JUST SURRENDER.

My breathing clams, my shoulders drop, my eyes close. My head is quiet. I stay there, still, surrounded by the magic. Everything slows down.

So this is peace, this is calm. My head is quiet.

My soul is awakened. It stretches out into me, welcoming me into its embrace. I feel a small smile, I feel my legs real, my breath is full. I am me.

I take a long slow peaceful walk out from the centre of the mystery, back to reality. I exit. I don't care I am last, I don't care everyone is watching and waiting.

I look up and smile.

My head is quiet!

Love and blessings in your journey to peace


The Law of Abundance is one of the principles found 2015-02-02 17.28.04_resizedwithin universal laws. It is often associated with the Law of Attraction. It is the simple fact that there is an unlimited Source of everything we need or could ever want. This great abundance is already ours, infinitely available to all of us all the time.

Abundance does not only relate to finances, but is also about abundance of beauty, joy, love, guidance, support. There is so much available to us in this lifetime .... yet so many of us are suffering or battling on some level so what stops us from enjoying that which we are so deserving of?

Based on the guidance available from recent Surrender Sessions the answer lies in the following questions.

1. Do you trust Source (God, the Universe, Divinity)?

Everything comes from Source, all is made available to us by the Universe. God is the creator of all that is possible. There are many of us that through experiencing pain and difficulty in this lifetime and previous lifetimes we may have stopped believing in the positive intentions of what is available to us. We have looked at negative traits and behaviours in humanity and decided that if that is an indication of God, then we don't trust and/or understand it. Rather than seeing a lack of belief in the light is what creates darkness we switch off our link to our own light and joy. Extreme religious beliefs that make us fearful of being punished by God has stopped us from remaining in an open trusting relationship with Source.

No Universal Law is stronger than free will and so abundance does not stick to you when there is a mistrust of the Source of all available to you.

Give yourself permission to connect to Source and trust all is as it should be. This does not abdicate our responsibility for changing the world, it is how we change the world!

2. Are you waiting to start living?

So many of us are not fully present in this moment. We waiting for a sign, we waiting until we have enough, we waiting for next week, we waiting for the bond to be paid off, we waiting to go on leave, we waiting for someone to rescue us etc etc etc. What are you waiting for?

So we spend all our energy in fear of how we going to get there, resenting some aspect of our life and waiting for the day it will be easier. The reality is the joy is in the moment even when life is tougher than we want. Shifting your focus to being present to your life in the moment allows you to receive all the lessons and blessings available to you.

Abundance happens in the now, not in the past or in the future. Being present and grateful for what is available to you now allows abundance to flow into your life.

3. Do you believe nothing comes for nothing in life?

How hard do we need to work before we deserve what is available to us?

This is a pattern where the relationship between giving and receiving is a balancing act. Making sure if we receive we believe we deserve it. We make things so much harder than they need to be.

The truth is, whilst a relationship exists between giving and receiving they are not linked. The law of abundance works where we give without any need to receive and where we allow ourselves to receive freely with no bind to any effort. There is a major difference between payment, reward and abundance. One of the ways we avoid our own vulnerability is by giving. This allows us to stay in control. None of us can control abundance. We need to allow it.

Allow yourself to receive without guilt. Things are easy and trust that there is no need to prove any sense of worthiness and or deserving-ness to receive. It is our birthright. We all deserve just by being here.

4. Is fear robbing you from living your life?

We all have fear. It is not necessary and/or possible to eliminate fear but some of us allow the fear to dominate our thoughts, emotions and choice and in this way our fear leads us through life. The fear of failure, the fear of success, the fear of judgement, the fear of vulnerability, the fear of connection, the fear of life itself. These fears can wrap us in a cocoon, in a bubble that separates us from our life. We end up being more of a spectator than a participant in our own lives.

The law of abundance can only align itself with those of us fully active in our own life and the choices we make. When fear is the guidance, even though you may think and visualise success, the law bypasses the thoughts to the dominant belief being fear.

Learning to embrace our fears and not resist them is step 1. Fear does not need judgement, it needs validation and for trust and courage to step forward to silence it. This is fundamentally a choice and is best captured with the quote, "Feel the fear, and do it anyway". Choose to trust, we are safe and fear is just the ego's limited way of protecting us. Once you know that you are safe and all is available in just the right way, there will be no place for fear to dominate.

Sending lots of love and healing energy your way to start enjoying all the abundance coming your way 🙂